http://www.infidelityfacts.com/infidelity-statistics.htmlI found a website with facts on infidelity which I think may make for useful reading.
I was personally a little surprised by how high the percentages are of people who have cheated on a partner, 57% of males and 54% of females have cheated on a partner! Thats over half of the population have cheated on a loved one!
So why do people cheat I ask? Surely someone who is having an affair can't love their partner that much or else they wouldn't be doing it, so why don't they just break up with them first? I think personally that in most cases of infidelity, the cheater still actually cares more for their partner than for their new lover as if this was not the case, surely they would end their current relationship for their new one. Maybe it's the feeling of trying something different, some people are of the opinion that having sex with just one person can get boring over time and typical human behaviour seems to be that we regularly crave what we don't have!
A huge 74% of men and 68% of women admit they would have an affair if they knew for sure they would avoid being caught. Clear proof that most cheaters actually still care about their partners and the reasons may be deeper for wanting to cheat than purely leaving the relationship. Maybe it really is just the attraction of trying something different but then again, the average affair lasts 2 years, thats more than just a brief taster of a different variety! Possibly the excitement of doing something a little bit naughty, the risk of getting caught is the attraction, many of us do long for a more crazy life at times.
A regular reason why someone won't leave their partner and instead may just cheat on them, is the involvement of children. Some people may want out of their marriage/relationship yet hold back from leaving knowing that if they leave then they will put their children through much distress as they see their mother or father leave the home. Therefore they may feel by staying in the relationship and keeping the family happy, while having a bit of fun on the side to satisfy themselves, everyones a winner! Until they're caught that is!
What I would really like peoples opinions on is, when a person is cheating on a loved one, is the person they are cheating with, equally to blame? Or is 100% of the blame purely on the shoulders of the cheater? And what do people class as infidelity, is it cheating to passionately kiss someone else or is it only cheating when it leads further onto sex?
I think that we ahve become a disposable society and find it too much hard work to commit to a relationship or work things out. Also perhaps admittting there are problems which may result in some form of infidelity to some people can be a sign of weakness.We sometimes find it easier to throw away and start again regardless of the hurt or pain caused.
ReplyDeleteWhat's a kiss? this can only be labelled as cheating if the guilty parties feel that it is, the guilt comes from within, so each of us has a different interpretation of what cheating is and to whom...