In response to Claire Cramphorns post on Masturbation

In response to http://claire-cee.blogspot.com/2009/03/masturbation-through-eyes-of.html

After reading the post from Claire and the message linked to it from the man who feels pushed out by his partners desire for vibrators and sex toys to be added to their sex life, I feel that this brings a lot of topics to our attention.

For example, we spoke in the masturbation lecture about masturbation when in a relationship and what appeared clear to us was that most people masturbate even when in a relationship. This may be considered strange by some people who would ask why, when you have a partner who you can have sex with, would you continue to pleasure yourself. Would people feel disgusted if they found out their partner was masturbating while in their relationship? What if their partner was masturbating over porn? Would it bother them that their partner was 'getting off' on watching and possibly imagining themselves with someone else and not their partner?
I personally feel that masturbation even when in a relationship is totally fine as people have different sexual drives and some require it more than others, therefore it is better for someone to pleasure themselves rather than cheat on a partner who may not need sex as often. Even if this includes porn, I feel that some people need the variety that porn provides as it differs from normal life and is very much acceptable.

The man who sent this post in, I feel is mainly worried that he may not be satisfying his partner sexually which can be a big worry for someone who is aware their partner masturbates but he should be happy that she involves him in this and learn from her masturbating as to what she likes. Masturbation can therefore be about discovering what someone likes sexually and can be beneficial for the masturbator but also for the partner.